I'm a person who takes a lot of action and I have been conditioned into thinking that only by action will I get the results I want. I'm only starting to undo this pattern of thinking and putting this into play since January this year.
I have been learning a little bit about a system called Human by design, which explains how to find more ease and flow as well as results depending on your birth chart. I always thought, that if I take action on everything - it will give me results. But the results were = me feeling burnt out and unsatisfied half of the time.
I was forcing myself to do some of the things that I did not feel like doing, nor did I want to do - but my mind said, I should do it. The problem is when we only listen to the logic part of us only - the heart gets silenced and we step away from our happiness and on a path of a very masculine way of living - thinking & doing.
This then creates a force effect and everything in turn becomes so much harder to do, achieve, stay motivated etc. So since the beginning of the year I put what I learnt into action (not always literally).
I began to say yes to things that light me up - even when my head said "well the logical thing to do is..." and I began to say no to the things that no longer brought me joy. To give you an example:
I said YES to opportunities that made me feel expansive and joyous
I said NO to answering texts straight away , especially when I was focusing on my work or scheduled me time (usually I would respond the same moment when I see the text). Of course this happens when I feel like its ok to do so, but I'm now more conscious of the action and think before I act - basically check in with myself
I said yes to finally making it public that I offer energy healing
I said no to cramming my day with so much to do, that I end up not enjoying the process and feeling extremely deflated for the rest of the week
As you can see, it is a practice of responding what aligns with you, your values and your needs at the time - and choosing joy, what lights you up and feels good in that moment. And the result? New opportunities coming into my life, I wake up happier, I am more productive and content inside - which in turn effects and benefits not only me - but also those around me.
Being in flow and choosing to say yes or no to the things that light you up - is how you will get results and see a change in your life.
In human by design you have different profiles - depending on your birth chart. I am a Generator. Generators have to wait to respond. But don’t get it confused with doing nothing. We are responding literally every single moment of our day.
Most of us have been conditioned and taught that we need to INITIATE ACTION (this is quite specific for a generator type, please bare in mind that if you profile is for example a Manifestor - you are born to initiate action). But this is just me using the knowledge about myself -not specifically of human by design but more generally in terms of what works for every single person when we choose joy and happiness.
I personally believe, that If you choose what lights you up, doesn’t matter what profile you are - you literally can’t go wrong. In turn your own vibration frequency amplifies, which then creates more space to attract more goodness into your life and you yourself feel more in flow with life and what it offers.
Don’t take my word for it. Try it. We only see results when we put what we learnt into practice.
This is not always easy. Sometimes our friends, family, colleagues etc are depending on us always to say yes to something they need from you. Sometimes you end up helping and going out of your way, but you really needed to rest and recharge physically and mentally.
Try to set healthy boundaries acknowledging your needs first, before your respond. Because it is very likely that even when you choose to say yes to something that doesn’t sit quite right with your or you are doing it because you think you have to - you will enter the space with frustration even though you are helping.
When we help from the HAVE TO place instead of WANT TO your energy is also very much affected and the authenticity as well as being genuine - is being taken away.
I hope this inspires you to think about some of the things that you can say yes or no to that might have already been on your mind and take action/respond. Remember, being still, choosing not to do, choosing rest - is also taking action.
Let me know your thoughts and if this was helpful by leaving a comment below - I would love to hear from you.
Love, Toma x